The Hunt

There are two things to aim at in life; first to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind has achieved the second.
- Logan Pearsall Smith

It's so funny to me that some people work and work and work for something they really want only to decide after they get it that it wasn't what they wanted after all or maybe they start working towards something else they want and never have time to enjoy the first thing. But I suppose that is human nature right? To try to get everything you want in life. At what cost does that come though? 

I have been told time and time again that men prefer the chase to having the thing/person. We were all naturally bread to hunt and track down the things we need and want, so in our society now a days where we can look up a number and call to get almost anything we may desire, the hunt has been taken out of life. Any chance we have to regain that natural calling we take.

For example, when dating, the two people will do almost anything to please the other and chase them down until they agree to be with them. After that fact though when they have the agreement and the commitment, it seems way less fun. There is no more spontaneity or fun work in the relationship. This plateau is where most relationships end, when one or both parties get bored of the simple commitment. Thus, making it hard to maintain a long term relationship. 

So what can we do? How do we avoid this plateau effect on our relationships? To me the answer is this -  Never stop trying to work for your partner. However long you happen to have been in a relationship with someone, don't take it as a guarantee that person is "yours". You still need to work to keep them and yourself interested and intrigued, still chase them and take them out. Treat them as though you are still trying to win their affection and heart. I have been using the word "work" often here I realize and some of you may be cringing at that thinking "a relationship is suppose to be fun! Not work!" I am not saying work as in dig a crazy trench around their house and fill it with alligators to protect them, work as in go out of your way to do little things you know they appreciate, or just spend time with them when it's not expected... or even just send them a little text letting them know you are thinking about them. 

So - work, chase, and be married (see what I did there)