Sometimes it's really hard for me to know what to do, and if I'm making the right decisions. Some nights I'll wake up and wonder if I have chosen the right job, the right pet, the right home. If I have made the right decisions and if I will continue to make the right ones. People tend to have a mis-conception of me ( I suppose because I let them) that I know what i'm doing and where i'm going in life. But in reality, I am just as lost as any one of my counter parts.
What has really got me thinking about this is a discussion I had recently with a friend. He asked me if I was happy. Simple question right? But with a very long winded, complex answer. Sure, I am happy some of the time. Is that how we are meant to live though? Going day by day un-happy waiting for a glimpse of that happiness you see in your life? And if not, how do you go about fixing that pattern?
I read a book a little while back titled "19 Minutes" by Jodi Picoult (which I very much recommend to anyone by the way) One of the characters is a professor who's main accomplishment is developing a formula for happiness - that happiness equals reality divided by expectations - which means that if your expectations are way higher than your reality you will never be happy. For me I have such high expectations of my life and where it's going I can't help but wonder if that is really the problem. That my reality just can't live up to my expectations. If so, do I really want to change that? Should I lower my expectations possibly resulting in living a mediocre life or should I be driving myself harder to produce a reality that puts all my expectations to shame? And if I choose the latter, am I not setting myself up to fail? Can you really have a reality the exceeds anything you could dream of?
What do you think?
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